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Thursday, October 4, 2007

You Are Who You Socialize With

Have you ever heard the saying….”you are who you socialize with”? Many life coaches and motivational speakers use this phrase.

I believe it makes sense. Did you ever notice how when someone is around another person a great deal, they start picking up each others mannerisms, start to like what they like or use the same phrases? Within your circle of friends, do they have a positive outlook? Do they Exercise? Do they have the same goals? What about their morals? Do they want to be successful in life?

How about a married couple who have been together for a long time. Did you ever use the phrase.. you've been together so long you're starting to act or look like each other? I remember I have said that to people on occasion.

I have heard that if you want to make money, look at someone who is successful and emulate what they are doing. If you do things exactly the way they are, you will be successful too. If you only allow yourself to be around successful or positive or happy people, you will gain those traits too. A mirroring affect...This will also create motivation within yourself. Your circle of friends may influence you to do better, feel more confident, push your limits.

On the other hand, if you surround yourself with people who are lazy, negative and have no particular goals, just getting by in life... do you think you may in some way pick up these same traits? What if a friend/family member or companion is not eating healthy. Will this have a subtle effect on you?

How about if a friend or companion who has no energy and just wants to stay home watching TV...don't you think you may put off what you could be doing and watch TV with this person? This might be fine on occasion, but what if this happens over and over again? What if a friend only wants to go out and drink? Will you be drinking with them?

"People's lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group," according to Anthony Robbins

Friends may influence health behaviors, effects on mood, self esteem, goals in life...the list can go on and on. This can be positive or negative...

What do you think?

If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you'll achieve the same results.
Tony Robbins

When people are like each other they tend to like each other.

Tony Robbins


Ajayprabhu said...

Thats quite true when you say our surroundings effect us in great way.Sometimes I observed things we never gave much attention too came along us at unconscious level.Thats why making freinds or choosing life partner ,must be done with utmost care..Thats the reason I always say people who got honest freinds or life partner are luckiest on earth....
Nice have....keep it like this more..

AC Associates said...

As always ajayprabhu, thanks for leaving such a great comment.

I believe the people you surround yourself with make a difference in your life. And like you said, having honest friends and/or a life partner is a great gift.

I'll do my best on the posting. Have any suggestions? Please let me know.

Ajayprabhu said...

I'm just 29 years old so I cant give you much suggestion as you must have seen more life than me.But ,I will always share thoughts and ideas which I love to...Have you read "The Importance of Living" By Lin Yutang?..Currently I'm reading it ,will share some of its ideas....

AC Associates said...

Have you stopped by my other blog? ?
I have many male readers and I think you might like some of the postings there.

Ajayprabhu said...

That site seems as sensitive as we human beings are...As most of the article touch deep within............I'm happy to be met with you....

Sam Chan said...

Hi Andrea,

I agree! We are who we socialize with. "Birds of the same feathers, flock together"

Blessings to you.
Let's Acquire Wisdom and Live with Passion

AC Associates said...

Hi ajayprabhu, thanks again. I thought you might like what I have been posting on my other site. Glad you liked them.
I am happy to have you within my circle of friends.

AC Associates said...

Hi sam, thanks so much for visiting and leaving a comment.
I have been realizing more and more that the people we spend time with DO influence us. As my priorities have been changing, I see my friends are not very supportive. I believe it's because they are just happy standing still.
Not that I should end some friendships, but I see that my circle may be changing in some ways.